You can minimize the potential for a family meltdown by consulting an estate attorney when you prepare your will, and by leaving precise, written instructions for dividing your assets among your heirs. You can divide your assets any way you want, but the guidelines must be presented clearly in writing

The portion of your estate covered by a Will includes both tangible assets, such as your home or your car, furniture, artwork and other collectibles, and intangible assets, such as bank accounts, stocks, insurance policies and mutual fund shares owned in your name. You don’t want to describe all your assets in your Will to be sure you don’t leave out existing assets and assets obtained subsequent to the drafting of the Will. Instead, you want to describe only those assets to be bequeathed to specific heirs; then divide the rest of your estate in specific ratios to specific heirs. An example might be 20% of the total in all your bank accounts (and list them) to each of your five children.

When you divide your assets, be precise in your wording so your intentions cannot be misunderstood. (Click here for an article on minimizing confusion among your heirs.) Be especially careful to avoid ambiguous statements. For example:

John writes in his Will: "I bequeath my sailboat to my daughter, Penny, and the remainder of my estate to my son, Jack." According to Jack, the trailer on which the sailboat stands is his; or

David’s Will says he leaves all his cash to his daughter Janet, but does not specify exactly what this cash is. Is it the bills and coins that David had in his wallet on the day he died? Does it include his savings account at the bank, or perhaps the returns of his life insurance policy? Or is it simply the balance in his checking account?

Besides preventing endless legal hassles, clarity in your Will regarding the division of your assets will go a long way towards keeping peace in the family once you are gone.